Husbands, This One is for You
Last week we began the second portion of our study. The first portion demonstrated that God created everything and, as such, He has all power over us. This second section reminds us of the fall of man and that the fruit of the fall is marital discourse. Today we are going to hear that our earthly marriages are a beautiful reflection of our marriage to Christ. Our God is so profoundly complete, isn’t he? Everything about what He has revealed to us in scripture points to Christ.
We have a treat for today’s post – my husband has a message for all of you married couples striving to live in Christ. It is inspired by a conversation he and I had several years ago. I pray that you will share it with your husbands and that it helps remind you both of your holy place in your marriage.
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.”
Mirror Christ’s Marriage
For these in Christ, your marriage should mirror the marriage between Christ and his bride, the church. Remember the collective body known as the church is the collective bride of Christ. Men are called to be the head of their wives, just as Christ is the head of the church. The task of mirroring Christ is heavy, but when done in Christ the yoke is easy and the burden is light. Christ has poured out His love for his bride. Within marriages men should mirror His goodness. Love is all about reflecting the image of God on earth within our marriages and not confusing what love is or confusing what God has created. This confusion is exactly what happened in the garden. It is the reason we are here, living in a sinful world. Despite the sin in the beginning, Christ still gave himself up for us, his church, his bride.
Perhaps you have heard some say that a man should be willing to die for his wife. That school of thought stems from this truth. The love that Christ demonstrates is free. Nothing must be given to receive it and nothing has to be given in return. Thus, whether a wife is worthy of a husband’s goodness is not the prerequisite for one to obey. Husbands are to do good to their wives despite the issues that may exist between them. That is right fellas, even if your beauty has nagged you to your wit’s end, you are to continue being gentle with her. For it is not her you serve, but our Almighty God, who sent His son Jesus to take on the responsibility that we saw Adam forsake.
Avoid Misplaced Blame
Men, when we step out of our position of leadership, we’re setting ourselves up for failure. We are setting ourselves up to be controlled by our wives, putting our ladies in a position to take the blame for something that is our responsibility. We must man up and sit in the position God has for ordained for us to rule.
When God came looking for Adam in the cool of the day, Adam blamed Eve. In Genesis 3:12, he said, “The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.” He totally threw her under the bus. In so doing, he removed himself from the place of authority. This is precisely why there is a constant struggle for power within our homes. Even worse, God then had to address Eve. There she was before God full of shame and guilt; she was blemished. Her protector left her high and dry. Adam was to keep his wife holy and blameless, without blemish. Now, Christ has come in and saved the day because at the end of this age when He returns to judge this world, those in Him will be saved.
“For He will forgive our iniquity, and He will remember our sin no more.”
I hope you all will look at chapter five of Ephesians. Soak in it. Walk in it. Breathe it. Taste it. Recognize the picture that is being given to us; see what a real marriage looks like—the love that is in there, the selflessness that is there. Understand what is being demonstrated by Christ. Understand that He died for those who don’t deserve it. Be willing to mirror His example daily so that your marriages can thrive in holy matrimony.
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