Day 1: Hope for Your Marriage
Creation, Fall, Redemption, Consummation
I am equally humbled and elated that you are reading. What an honor that you would seek my advice or opinion in marriage. Glory to God, I have something even better than my own advice…the gospel.
Sweet friend, the wind may be blowing on your marriage right now, but keep your eyes upon our Savior. Don’t allow the wind to distract you! There is hope.
“Be strong and courageous.” (Deuteronomy 31:6)
When the focus within your marriage is Christ (and not your spouse), you will begin to perceive your marital woes through the four most prominent themes of scripture: Creation, Fall, Redemption, and Consummation. Ladies we will spend our time over the next few weeks focusing on these four paradigms. I have not advice to give to you, but what I do have I give to you. Might you be enriched by the truth of the gospel now and always.
Day 1: God Created Everything with his Authority
God, Our Ultimate Authority
God’s power and authority is vast enough to cover all that ails our marriages. The key to accessing his power in marriage is to first understand it. This understanding must take you beyond that which is common to man. Journey with me, and travel to an uncommon land on the highway of holiness.
Here are some key points to remember as we navigate through day one:
1. God is the ultimate authority.
2. He gets to do whatever he pleases with his authority.
3. We have to submit to that authority.
God has given us an order to follow. That means he has given us structure, an order that tells us our roles. As such, we can embrace those roles and live the lives that he has called for us to live.
The Bible begins with our God declaring His authority. Genesis 1:1 reads,
“In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.”
Let us think about that for a moment. The God of the universe has always been; he has no beginning, and no end. Perhaps the beginning was for us, for mankind, so that our finite minds could understand the circumstances of our creation. The Lord our God, created the tapestry we call earth so that “what can be known about God is plain. For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made” (Romans 1:19,20).
Let us take a moment to consider God’s handiwork. Have you ever walked around a beautiful botanical garden? I love flowers. I am always awestruck in the midst of a garden. Not only is there a wide array of pure splendor in clear view, there are many majestic things occurring that we cannot see without a closer look. For example, there are probably hundreds of worms irrigating the soil. There are bees drinking nectar while simultaneously pollinating flowers. What about the invisible exchange of oxygen and carbon dioxide occurring between the plants and humans? At this very moment water just traveled up a tree’s root system, against the law of gravity, to provide nutrients to its leaves. If God’s authority can create this kind of beauty within a garden, just imagine what his authority has in store for you and your marriage. Doesn’t that just make you smile?
In six days the Lord our God created every single thing imaginable with you in mind. Let us stretch our minds beyond the walls of the common man. Allow your imagination to soar to the heights reserved for those who can actually call our God, “Father”. Can you sit with the story of creation on your minds right now? On the first day God created the entire universe (Genesis 1:1-5). This includes what we can see and the things beyond the world’s most sophisticated telescopes. We cannot even hold the vastness of outer space in our minds. On the second day God created the atmosphere (Genesis 1:6-8). On the third day God created dry land and plants (Genesis 1:9-13). The fourth day was reserved for the sun, the moon, and stars (Genesis 1:14-19). On the fifth day of creation our God created sea and winged creatures (1:20-23). On the final day of creation, God created land creatures and mankind (1:24-31).
“So God created man in his image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
These verses describe our essence as created beings and our roles, first as husbands and wives, secondly as supreme beings over the earth. Our essence is that our very nature echoes the image of our God (v. 27). Our primary role is to increase in number (by having faithful children) and to continue to develop the earth in a manner that points all things to God (v. 28).
Authority is the power to enforce laws, exact obedience, command, determine, or judge. God’s authority gives him the right to do just that. He has this authority because he is the author of all things. When we think of authority, a clear picture comes to mind. In the workplace, you might think of your boss. Within your community, you may think of law enforcement. In terms of government, maybe the president or governor comes to mind. In any case, we all have an image or idea of an authority figure within the different institutions that affect our daily lives.
Let this clear picture of authority remain as we grow to envision God as the potter over our lives and marriages. Open your hearts to God’s truths written in his word, the Bible. Let his revelations reveal to you the deeper things that are not just for the average being. Let truth guide your eyes to the sights unseen so that when the rain begins to fall on your marriages and the light of day is not in your carnal sight, your faith can have you soaring on God’s promise-filled rainbows. What can a flood do to a couple who has a marriage anchored to the one true God?!
Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. (Colossians 3:16)
Has the potter no right over the clay, to make out of the same lump one vessel for honorable use and another for dishonorable use? (Romans 9:21)
Within the institution of your marriage, would you say there is a clear picture of authority there? When you think about your home, is the picture of authority clear? Is there an established figure in charge in your home?
- Do you consider yourself an authority in any way at home, work or church? How would your describe your role and/or responsibilities?
- Are you under anyone else’s authority in any of those areas—work, home, church? If so, how does that make you feel? Are there any challenges for you as a result?
- Do you believe that God has ultimate authority?
- Do you live as if God is the ultimate authority in your life? What about within your marriage?
- Are you ready to acknowledge that God has ultimate authority within your life and marriage?